WHEN Olivia Roberts struck up a relationship with a man who shared her love for the gym, she thought she’d hit the jackpot.
The 25-year-old had moved to a new area for her nursing career and found herself gravitating towards the bloke, with the pair regularly having gym-based dates.
Everything was perfect. He was interesting, attentive and funny, even making jokes about having a wife and kids at home.
Except, he wasn’t joking.
Olivia’s new beau really did have a wife and kid, with another baby on the way, and she now claims that he was leading a double life.
His tactic for not being caught? Hiding in plain sight.
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“There were definitely signs along the way that I just didn’t realise,” she admits.
“They seemed like innocent little comments until now I know what I know.”
The pair had met in Victoria, Australia in January 2024 and immediately bonded over their love of weightlifting.
Around this time, Olivia’s profile as a fitness influencer on TikTok was growing – and although her boyfriend was supportive of her videos, he never wanted to be in them.
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“I didn’t think anything of it,” she reflects.
“He knew I filmed my workouts. I’d ask if he was okay with being in the background, and he’d always say, ‘Just make sure you don’t get me in it.’
“I didn’t think twice; some people value privacy.”
The pair spoke every day, both over text and on the phone, for the entirety of their relationship.
Olivia now claims he dropped the bombshell revelation over text during one of these “casual conversations”.
“He mentioned very casually in conversation that he was going to this place, and his wife and kid were going which was annoying because he wanted to go by himself,” she recalls.
Four red flags your partner is cheating
Private Investigator Aaron Bond from BondRees revealed four warning signs your partner might be cheating.
They start to take their phone everywhere with them
In close relationships, it’s normal to know each other’s passwords and use each other’s phones, if their phone habits change then they may be hiding something.
Aaron says: “If your partner starts changing their passwords, starts taking their phone everywhere with them, even around the house or they become defensive when you ask to use their phone it could be a sign of them not being faithful.”
“You should also look at how they place their phone down when not in use. If they face the phone with the screen facing down, then they could be hiding something.”
They start telling you less about their day
When partners cheat they can start to avoid you, this could be down to them feeling guilty or because it makes it easier for them to lie to you.
“If you feel like your partner has suddenly begun to avoid you and they don’t want to do things with you any more or they stop telling you about their day then this is another red flag.”
“Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be tough, remembering all of your lies is impossible and it’s an easy way to get caught out,” says Aaron.
Their libido changes
Your partner’s libido can change for a range of reasons so it may not be a sure sign of cheating but it can be a red flag according to Aaron.
Aaron says: “Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but on occasions, they may also have more sex at home, this is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You may also find that your partner will start to introduce new things into your sex life that weren’t there before.”
They become negative towards you
Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and to them, it will feel good, this can cause tension and anxiety within themselves which they will need to justify.
“To get rid of the tension they feel inside they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and they will become critical of you out of nowhere. Maybe you haven’t walked the dog that day, put the dishes away or read a book to your children before bedtime. A small problem like this can now feel like a big deal and if you experience this your partner could be cheating,” warns Aaron.
“He had joked in the past about having a wife… He’s f****d around with me before and made jokes about it.”
As she usually did at these gags, Olivia laughed.
But for the first time, her boyfriend responded by asking: “What’s funny?”
An awkward back-and-forth ensued between the pair before he eventually offered to “prove” that he wasn’t joking.
There were definitely signs along the way that I just didn’t realise. They seemed like innocent little comments until now I know what I know
Olivia Roberts
“I was at work at the time, and I was talking to my manager, and I was like, I am mind blown and I am shaking right now,” Olivia says.
“I was so anxious and so nervous when I found out.”
The gym bunny tried to do some digging on her beau, but she soon realised that he had given her a fake name.
She couldn’t find any details about his life or his family online, leaving her totally in the lurch as her relationship unravelled in front of her.
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As she looks back on the months they’d spent together, she believes there were a few obvious signs she had missed.
Among these are the jokes, as well as his reluctance to feature in her gym videos.
